Valentine Blues: Feeling Lonely And Unloved?

Feeling like you have nobody to love on Valentine’s day? You are not alone. Cue in Michael Jackson's 'You are not alone'.

Being single on Valentine’s day may have you thinking you’re unworthy of love or unlovable. You may worry that you’ll never find someone to love or someone who will love you. 

Hear this loud and clear, there is no such thing as being unlovable.  Everyone has the potential of being loved by others. Just try not to compare yourself with other people. 

Although you may feel like you're the only one without a partner, there are many others in the same situation as you. The best way to manage feelings of loneliness on this day involve shifting your focus and aiming to be happy with what you already have.

Here are a few ways.

Keep Up Your Daily Routine

One of the best ways to deal with being alone on Valentine's Day is to go about your daily routine. Go to work, or the gym etc. Just do whatever you would normally do that day of the week, to make it seem like just another day of the year.

Play Cupid

Most people have never received a gift from a secret admirer. Consider anonymously sending a gift to someone in the same position as you. This doesn't need to be someone in whom you have romantic interest; simply someone whom you want to see smile. Include a note saying that you wanted to pay it forward this Valentine's day. 

Reach Out To Someone

Take the opportunity to reach out to someone whom you haven't spoken to in a while. That person might be a family member, a friend or even a potential romantic interest.You never know who might also be feeling lonely on Valentine's Day and will welcome the chance to catch up. If you get the chance, give that person a hug as well. 

Plan A Night Out With Single Friends

If you have single friends, plan a night out as a group. Being in the company of others in the same situation will help to ease your loneliness. Be sure to keep the night upbeat. 

Treat Yourself

Instead of ignoring Valentine's Day, decide to make it a day to treat yourself well. After work you could go eat at a fancy restaurant or get yourself that shoe you have been ogling on Instagram. Make yourself feel good, you deserve it.

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